1 00:00:00,63 --> 00:00:04,89 Good morning and welcome to SR Our which is sponsored by Comfort keepers in home 2 00:00:04,90 --> 00:00:09,93 care I'm Barbara Cochran with my co-host Dr Gene Dorio on your home town station I 3 00:00:09,94 --> 00:00:11,37 am twelve twenty K.P.H. 4 00:00:11,38 --> 00:00:12,65 TS This is 5 00:00:12,66 --> 00:00:17,61 a show for about and by seniors giving information to enhance one's quality of life 6 00:00:17,97 --> 00:00:23,75 and speaking of enhanced and lungs quality of life who hasn't experienced stress 7 00:00:24,24 --> 00:00:28,53 I'm sure everyone out here in our listening audience has experienced it at some 8 00:00:28,54 --> 00:00:33,68 time or another and our guest this morning Alex Urbina he's 9 00:00:33,69 --> 00:00:39,01 a life leadership coach and he also works with action family zone he's going to be 10 00:00:39,02 --> 00:00:43,63 talking about stress welcome Alex it's good it's good to have you back again always 11 00:00:43,64 --> 00:00:50,07 a pleasure and what does the word stress mean to you stress means to me that there 12 00:00:50,08 --> 00:00:55,82 is something that we are resisting in our life and it's something that we're trying 13 00:00:55,83 --> 00:01:01,91 to control and I believe that when you get clear that you're not in control of 14 00:01:02,15 --> 00:01:08,03 anything that's outside of you. Other people's opinions other people's thoughts 15 00:01:08,07 --> 00:01:12,37 other people's actions the way the world shows up that's outside of me that I have 16 00:01:12,38 --> 00:01:16,99 no control of it and so once I get really crystal clear about there are things that 17 00:01:17,00 --> 00:01:22,15 which I can control that's all within me and that's all I can control and that 18 00:01:22,16 --> 00:01:27,98 frees me up to allow myself to be at peace to be at ease with life events or 19 00:01:27,99 --> 00:01:31,99 certain situations that show up in my life and when I get crystal clear about that 20 00:01:32,68 --> 00:01:39,12 I'm not resisting things that are out of my control or the things that that frees 21 00:01:39,13 --> 00:01:44,30 if this frees me up and so I I believe that the stress comes on when there are 22 00:01:44,31 --> 00:01:51,16 certain things I want to be in control of. Very interesting. Hi Jane how are you 23 00:01:51,17 --> 00:01:57,40 how are you I'm doing OK thanks for having me good words but words that kind of 24 00:01:57,41 --> 00:02:01,96 make you think how did you get to the point where you can look at this in 25 00:02:01,97 --> 00:02:07,49 a philosophical way and remove the stress in your life to make better decisions 26 00:02:07,53 --> 00:02:12,45 once I got clear about the distinction of control versus no control once it really 27 00:02:12,46 --> 00:02:16,77 clicked for me and it took some practice but as I started to employment in my own 28 00:02:16,78 --> 00:02:21,95 life and getting really crystal clear about. You know control versus no control it 29 00:02:21,96 --> 00:02:27,42 just started I started noticing that I was showing up in life more at ease more at 30 00:02:27,43 --> 00:02:30,64 peace more surrendered and I got to 31 00:02:30,65 --> 00:02:34,00 a point where one day I woke up and realize you know what I'm not stressed out 32 00:02:34,01 --> 00:02:39,48 about any situation that shows up in my daily life so that the stress starts to 33 00:02:39,52 --> 00:02:40,88 eliminate a little bit more at 34 00:02:40,89 --> 00:02:45,92 a time every day more and more as I become more conscious of the way I'm living my 35 00:02:45,93 --> 00:02:48,58 life but the control and non control was 36 00:02:48,59 --> 00:02:54,13 a personal sense and feeling though as opposed to people from the outside having 37 00:02:54,14 --> 00:02:59,86 control or not having control of your life well I'm only in control of my own life 38 00:02:59,87 --> 00:03:04,85 and control my own thoughts I mean control my own choices and I think the main key 39 00:03:04,86 --> 00:03:09,21 is that I'm in charge and in control of my perceptions which was huge Once I 40 00:03:09,22 --> 00:03:15,25 realize that I can perceive certain situations however I want it changed my reality 41 00:03:15,93 --> 00:03:19,46 and want to change my reality and I was able to see each new event as 42 00:03:19,47 --> 00:03:25,53 a blessing rather than something that I don't want instantly I was transformed that 43 00:03:25,54 --> 00:03:31,77 isn't an attitude and that thought process of life as opposed to just control and I 44 00:03:31,78 --> 00:03:37,64 control I mean didn't you once you realize whether you had control or not you said 45 00:03:37,65 --> 00:03:42,96 OK I'm shifty my attitude and how I'm going to think about this and then change how 46 00:03:42,97 --> 00:03:48,31 I approach things it was more I look at it more through. My perception my viewpoint 47 00:03:48,97 --> 00:03:55,34 it's how I perceive the way life shows up to me how I perceive the way people speak 48 00:03:55,35 --> 00:04:01,46 to me how I perceive the choices that are now available for me to choose from so 49 00:04:01,47 --> 00:04:01,91 it's more of 50 00:04:01,92 --> 00:04:07,67 a perspective shift rather than thinking that that you can control the things that 51 00:04:07,68 --> 00:04:13,88 are outside of your own choosing Wow bug your philosophy has 52 00:04:14,54 --> 00:04:17,86 is in front of you now and with that change in your life you've 53 00:04:17,87 --> 00:04:22,46 a large yourself to move forward to help other people that's right I'm just crystal 54 00:04:22,47 --> 00:04:25,93 clear now about the things that I can control the things that I can't so when 55 00:04:25,94 --> 00:04:28,38 people look over at me more people are having 56 00:04:28,39 --> 00:04:31,94 a hard time or stressed out about certain things in their life and they look over 57 00:04:31,95 --> 00:04:36,57 at me and they're like aren't you upset aren't you doesn't that bother you and I 58 00:04:36,58 --> 00:04:41,35 look at honestly quite quite frankly no because I realize that I'm not in control 59 00:04:41,36 --> 00:04:46,73 of that and that frees me up to be able to to influence at that point 60 00:04:47,32 --> 00:04:52,75 a different outcome I have to have the first resist that which I can't control to 61 00:04:52,76 --> 00:04:57,41 free me up to put me in a space that which now I can use my abilities to influence 62 00:04:57,42 --> 00:05:02,20 a different outcome but when we come back why don't we talk about Alex how you're 63 00:05:02,21 --> 00:05:08,13 teaching others about that control and that perception because you found that so 64 00:05:08,14 --> 00:05:11,61 others should be able to find that absolutely will be back in just 65 00:05:11,62 --> 00:05:15,78 a few moments on the senior Dr jean door you look with my co-host Barbara Cochran 66 00:05:15,79 --> 00:05:21,51 on your hometown station in twelve twenty cage vs. Hi I'm Corey Pak principal of 67 00:05:21,52 --> 00:05:26,39 West cricket ketamine and Bill is here and you're watching S C B T V local 68 00:05:26,40 --> 00:05:32,74 television for Santa Clarita. 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A car. 84 00:06:43,61 --> 00:06:48,50 When you have station AM twelve twenty page TS and we're speaking with Alex Arena 85 00:06:48,74 --> 00:06:48,96 who is 86 00:06:48,97 --> 00:06:57,13 a life leadership coach and our topic this morning is stress and. Believe 87 00:06:57,14 --> 00:06:58,79 me I've experienced 88 00:06:58,83 --> 00:07:04,90 a great deal of stress and I think in the last four or five months but I'm I begun 89 00:07:04,91 --> 00:07:11,53 to learn how to put it away. How to remove 90 00:07:11,54 --> 00:07:18,48 myself from it because I realized getting up tight and you know 91 00:07:18,49 --> 00:07:23,49 and I literally had to clench my fists sometimes that's how uptight I've been but 92 00:07:23,50 --> 00:07:30,13 how do we move yourself how do you how does is this physically or mentally I mean I 93 00:07:30,14 --> 00:07:35,44 mean what I'm saying is great that you have been able to do that but it's so hard 94 00:07:35,45 --> 00:07:38,33 for most people to get to a point where they can take 95 00:07:38,34 --> 00:07:43,34 a step back that I have this problem I'm going to deal with that now is move 96 00:07:43,35 --> 00:07:48,13 forward keep taking steps forward how do you do that well I've I've known for 97 00:07:48,14 --> 00:07:54,78 a long time that stress can kill you at any it really can and if you let yourself I 98 00:07:54,79 --> 00:08:00,82 can tell when I'm stressed because I feel tight inside just like I can tell when my 99 00:08:00,83 --> 00:08:05,95 blood pressure is high I have the same feeling inside and it's either opes it's 100 00:08:05,96 --> 00:08:12,08 either my blood pressure which does go up when I'm stressed or it's stress and what 101 00:08:12,09 --> 00:08:16,39 I've learned to do is sit down and take 102 00:08:16,48 --> 00:08:23,07 a deep breath and think about what is stressing me what's happening 103 00:08:23,08 --> 00:08:29,81 around me that is causing me to stress me. Because it's not necessarily 104 00:08:29,82 --> 00:08:35,84 anybody else it's me that that whatever it is in me 105 00:08:36,67 --> 00:08:42,51 is is I'm trying to pull somebody else in or something else in and that's not what 106 00:08:42,52 --> 00:08:48,87 it is in all means and let's talk about that that stress and the impact that it has 107 00:08:48,88 --> 00:08:54,100 honest physically and mentally because once you start feeling this the stress you 108 00:08:55,01 --> 00:09:00,64 said your blood pressure goes up but mentally you also don't sleep you start making 109 00:09:00,65 --> 00:09:05,70 mental errors you're not judging things correctly the logic that you may have once 110 00:09:05,71 --> 00:09:09,20 had before out the door I mean how do you know this is 111 00:09:09,21 --> 00:09:15,71 a harder subject to tackle because our seniors every day are facing should dress I 112 00:09:15,72 --> 00:09:20,44 mean we have the situation going on at the Senior Center right now with the with 113 00:09:20,45 --> 00:09:25,47 the food the meals are home delivered meals and serving meals there and some of 114 00:09:25,48 --> 00:09:27,43 them are threatened because that one meal 115 00:09:27,44 --> 00:09:31,36 a day is all they get from it and they're not knowing what are they going to do 116 00:09:31,37 --> 00:09:35,98 tomorrow and you know they want three dollars and fifty cents for the meal and you 117 00:09:35,99 --> 00:09:38,69 know you can just make a donation and don't have to make 118 00:09:38,70 --> 00:09:44,17 a donation but the fact is that you know all of us feel obligated to pay your own 119 00:09:44,18 --> 00:09:47,79 way and by walking in and taking 120 00:09:47,83 --> 00:09:52,21 a so-called handout doesn't we're not comfortable with that no one is and this 121 00:09:52,22 --> 00:09:56,80 country so we want to give something but knowing that you have to give something 122 00:09:57,07 --> 00:10:02,71 create such stress in our seniors lives the other thing too you can take it further 123 00:10:03,22 --> 00:10:10,01 is money being tight look at the heat wave the seniors think I can afford to 124 00:10:10,02 --> 00:10:15,89 keep my air conditioning on. It's going to cost me too much money then what am I 125 00:10:15,90 --> 00:10:20,06 going to do I can't pay the time pay the electricity bill so I'm going to cut it 126 00:10:20,07 --> 00:10:25,67 off and they did and they do they do and people that's the most dangerous thing 127 00:10:25,68 --> 00:10:30,65 they can did absolutely and once once again we always discuss the issues about our 128 00:10:30,66 --> 00:10:36,28 seniors Alex and talk about how important it is for them to stay hydrated during 129 00:10:36,29 --> 00:10:41,08 this time close the drapes up during the daytime not go out if they can avoid it 130 00:10:41,09 --> 00:10:46,61 because of the polluting pollutants that are out there but the wear cotton clothes 131 00:10:46,62 --> 00:10:53,21 if they are going to go out had if they can sunglasses lotion if they can but I but 132 00:10:53,22 --> 00:10:57,26 the most important thing is to stay hydrated and you know what the Olympics 133 00:10:57,27 --> 00:11:03,26 recently they had this little thing about whether sports drinks really work or not 134 00:11:03,60 --> 00:11:10,13 and being like I am I've always been athletic and I've always had something to 135 00:11:10,14 --> 00:11:14,45 drink that is an athletic drink by my side but the study and it was from like 136 00:11:14,46 --> 00:11:20,10 Harvard or somewhere said that if you work out and they said two hours 137 00:11:20,11 --> 00:11:23,01 a day or more then you need to have 138 00:11:23,02 --> 00:11:27,59 a sports drink and I left I said Who the heck works out two hours or more 139 00:11:27,60 --> 00:11:32,75 a day not not me every My whole life I don't so here they're telling those don't 140 00:11:32,79 --> 00:11:35,63 drink sports drinks if you're not working out more than two hours 141 00:11:35,64 --> 00:11:42,08 a day go no nonsense sports drinks help hydrate our seniors that's the way it is if 142 00:11:42,09 --> 00:11:42,28 you're 143 00:11:42,29 --> 00:11:46,69 a diabetic you have to be careful if you have to watch your sodium you have to be 144 00:11:46,70 --> 00:11:50,36 careful but if you're not doing this you're going to start getting symptoms like 145 00:11:50,37 --> 00:11:54,45 lightheadedness dizziness weakness things like that and if you're not watching your 146 00:11:54,46 --> 00:11:55,48 weight that gives you 147 00:11:55,49 --> 00:12:00,19 a volume your blood pressure that tells you something about the volume you're going 148 00:12:00,20 --> 00:12:05,55 to end up being in trouble and guess what you're going to be in stress and it's 149 00:12:05,56 --> 00:12:09,77 going to turn around and cycle around and that's really going to end up getting you 150 00:12:09,78 --> 00:12:14,08 know so these decisions that people are making arse. Seniors you know they're being 151 00:12:14,09 --> 00:12:18,07 stressed out from the financial issues the food issues are 152 00:12:18,11 --> 00:12:21,85 a lot of things that are background noise to them but all of 153 00:12:21,86 --> 00:12:27,62 a sudden raise up their heads to really swallow them up and cause lots of problems 154 00:12:27,63 --> 00:12:34,53 for them it really does what is your take on that My take is that I believe that I 155 00:12:34,54 --> 00:12:41,07 create my own stress I create my own reality and it's all it's all self 156 00:12:41,08 --> 00:12:44,73 created and it's and it's all created by me and we can talk about that we come back 157 00:12:44,74 --> 00:12:46,32 in the break right let's take 158 00:12:46,33 --> 00:12:50,93 a break I'm Barbara Cochran with my co-host Dr Gene Dorio on your home town station 159 00:12:50,94 --> 00:12:52,94 I am twelve twenty caged Yes. 160 00:12:59,76 --> 00:13:03,28 We have. 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The 184 00:14:59,61 --> 00:15:05,74 main thing about self is the stress associated with that and how self plays 185 00:15:05,75 --> 00:15:10,79 a role in our stress tell us about what your beliefs are yeah I believe that you 186 00:15:10,80 --> 00:15:14,96 know when light life's going to happen is just always continuously happening it's 187 00:15:14,97 --> 00:15:19,46 involved it's evolving it's showing up it's unfolding itself all the time and I 188 00:15:19,47 --> 00:15:26,19 notice that which I focus on what I don't want I start to resist it and what I'm 189 00:15:26,20 --> 00:15:30,34 focusing on I don't want I resist that and that's what causes the stress it's like 190 00:15:30,50 --> 00:15:34,11 if I asked you to put your hand up and I put my hand up and I said I want you to 191 00:15:34,12 --> 00:15:38,30 resist my hand and as you start pushing you start feeling the stress where you 192 00:15:38,31 --> 00:15:44,80 feeling it at. Like in your elbows in your arm right so going up and exactly that's 193 00:15:44,81 --> 00:15:49,47 because you're resisting my hand here and and all you've got and all you've got to 194 00:15:49,48 --> 00:15:55,39 do is just so render not resisting me now let's do this again so I know you guys 195 00:15:55,40 --> 00:15:59,46 can watch but my hands up your hands up and you're pushing against my hand and I'm 196 00:15:59,47 --> 00:16:04,49 pushing into your head now once you let go go let go and then when you let go 197 00:16:04,53 --> 00:16:10,06 there's no there's no more game playing I can't play with nobody so if you if you 198 00:16:10,07 --> 00:16:15,25 focus on what you don't want you actually give it life you're giving it more energy 199 00:16:15,51 --> 00:16:19,34 and more energy and more live you're causing it creating more of what you don't 200 00:16:19,35 --> 00:16:24,82 want the minute you turn your back on it and don't focus on what you don't want and 201 00:16:24,83 --> 00:16:27,16 start focusing on what you do want which is 202 00:16:27,17 --> 00:16:31,93 a solution or an answer you're so powerful that you will start to figure out 203 00:16:31,97 --> 00:16:37,53 a new solution to what you want that contradicts and combat's what you don't want I 204 00:16:37,54 --> 00:16:41,51 don't that makes sense to you you have to start focusing on what the solution is 205 00:16:41,69 --> 00:16:46,34 and stop focusing on what the problem is absolutely I think you always have to move 206 00:16:46,35 --> 00:16:50,90 forward and define what your problem is if you don't define that problem you'll 207 00:16:50,91 --> 00:16:52,00 never achieve 208 00:16:52,01 --> 00:16:56,69 a solution if you can you can and what we see commonly is criticizing the problem 209 00:16:56,73 --> 00:17:00,62 that's right but we never see a a route 210 00:17:00,87 --> 00:17:06,95 a step by step manner to get to the solution that's right getting the feedback that 211 00:17:06,96 --> 00:17:12,21 we need from all the people and self to be able to come up with ideas to move in 212 00:17:12,22 --> 00:17:18,04 the right direction Well I think the reason for that is that we come up against 213 00:17:18,05 --> 00:17:23,35 that don't feel it's our fault. It's that other person's fault they're the ones 214 00:17:23,36 --> 00:17:29,36 causing me to stress it's their fault it has nothing to do with me which is 215 00:17:29,37 --> 00:17:36,23 absolutely false because I'm the one that's allowing this to happen to me whatever 216 00:17:36,24 --> 00:17:41,66 the this is which opens up what's now opens up the possibility that you have to 217 00:17:41,67 --> 00:17:46,18 start taking responsibility for your life and you've got to start looking through 218 00:17:46,19 --> 00:17:51,39 the filters of being responsible rather than being the victim absolutely because 219 00:17:51,40 --> 00:17:55,27 when you're looking to the filters of being the victim then you're powerless and 220 00:17:55,28 --> 00:18:01,16 then everything's happening to you rather then I'm the cause of things I am because 221 00:18:01,17 --> 00:18:05,90 of who I'm being or who I'm not being is creating the result that's that's coming 222 00:18:05,91 --> 00:18:11,12 up for me and you're resisting whatever it is that you are not in control over you 223 00:18:11,13 --> 00:18:16,47 can't control or that you don't want is what's causing all the stress let's look at 224 00:18:16,48 --> 00:18:17,04 it from 225 00:18:17,05 --> 00:18:21,51 a different angle we have talked and I've been on that soapbox about the the meals 226 00:18:21,52 --> 00:18:23,67 over at senior center but of senior center if 227 00:18:23,68 --> 00:18:30,01 a senior is listening to this and they're saying no I was arm exactly I exactly 228 00:18:30,02 --> 00:18:33,78 understand what's going on with those meals and the cost and I can't afford to pay 229 00:18:33,79 --> 00:18:39,74 for it there this is an outside problem now influencing them how 230 00:18:40,16 --> 00:18:45,31 a senior listening to this how would they then reflect back and say you know I am 231 00:18:45,32 --> 00:18:50,34 not going to resist this I'm not going to allow it to affect me but what do they do 232 00:18:50,87 --> 00:18:54,90 with the meal I mean they they have to eat something or we are we saying oh yeah 233 00:18:54,91 --> 00:18:55,31 we'll find 234 00:18:55,32 --> 00:18:59,88 a solution the solution is will go down to the nearest restaurant and we'll go 235 00:18:59,89 --> 00:19:02,05 through the trash early what we can that's not 236 00:19:02,06 --> 00:19:06,81 a solution to me I mean what how are we going to apply what we're talking about to 237 00:19:06,91 --> 00:19:09,54 the situation example that we had before with 238 00:19:09,55 --> 00:19:12,99 a senior facing something impacting them like not having 239 00:19:12,100 --> 00:19:17,79 a meal and then what we're talking about moving ahead finding solutions and how 240 00:19:17,80 --> 00:19:20,98 they're going to how they're going to find that solution how should. I look at it 241 00:19:20,99 --> 00:19:24,41 that you know first of all they have to stop looking at through the filters of 242 00:19:24,42 --> 00:19:30,69 being victimized like why is this happening to me what's what what's going on and 243 00:19:30,70 --> 00:19:33,47 stop looking at it like it's something that happened to them rather than just 244 00:19:33,48 --> 00:19:37,43 something to happen in life right some people are making some decisions there's 245 00:19:37,44 --> 00:19:39,99 probably funding that's not available that someone made 246 00:19:40,00 --> 00:19:44,34 a decision perience was so be neutral about the decision first of all so you're not 247 00:19:44,35 --> 00:19:49,41 riled up and you reach any getting resistance to it and it's something that you're 248 00:19:49,45 --> 00:19:54,03 you know pushing up against that's that's number one number two is step into now 249 00:19:54,04 --> 00:19:58,54 a responsible version of OK now it's my responsibility to figure out how to feed 250 00:19:58,55 --> 00:20:03,27 myself right so I step in and take to take responsibility so as 251 00:20:03,28 --> 00:20:07,19 a responsible person how do I Now go figure out how to create 252 00:20:07,61 --> 00:20:12,55 a meal for me and the people here at the center I believe that if it just takes one 253 00:20:12,56 --> 00:20:15,25 person to get clear about it maybe has 254 00:20:15,26 --> 00:20:20,17 a meeting at their house or in this in the rec room and you invite other people to 255 00:20:20,18 --> 00:20:26,07 join you in your mission of let's take a responsible version and let's take 256 00:20:26,08 --> 00:20:30,86 a stand for ourselves and figuring out how to get these meals replaced I believe 257 00:20:30,87 --> 00:20:34,20 that the group of powerful people that are committed to creating 258 00:20:34,21 --> 00:20:39,18 a result will start figuring out how to reinvent themselves to make sure that they 259 00:20:39,28 --> 00:20:39,70 create 260 00:20:39,74 --> 00:20:46,32 a meal for themselves and we invented ourselves Barbara when the hospital here told 261 00:20:46,33 --> 00:20:51,63 us that they were closing our transitional care unit down six or seven years ago 262 00:20:51,94 --> 00:20:54,04 and we came together formed 263 00:20:54,05 --> 00:20:59,14 a group and from the city to people in the community everybody showed up to say 264 00:20:59,15 --> 00:21:03,55 we're not going to allow this to happen that's right that's rock them off but you 265 00:21:03,56 --> 00:21:09,71 know we organize that there are some people that just Alex don't have it in them 266 00:21:09,75 --> 00:21:10,88 that's right and I say that's 267 00:21:10,89 --> 00:21:14,28 a small percentage Yeah absolutely and before we go on the break I just want to 268 00:21:14,29 --> 00:21:17,35 make this point it's way easier to be 269 00:21:17,36 --> 00:21:23,59 a victim and to complain about it. Rather then to to look at yourself realize you 270 00:21:23,60 --> 00:21:25,71 have the power to make a new choice and make 271 00:21:25,72 --> 00:21:29,96 a difference and stand up and then create something see as human beings we don't 272 00:21:29,97 --> 00:21:34,48 realize we're powerful enough to create whatever we want. And it's interesting 273 00:21:34,49 --> 00:21:40,79 because at that time it was we felt good about what we were doing. Yes 274 00:21:40,84 --> 00:21:43,36 regardless of the outcome we took 275 00:21:43,37 --> 00:21:48,62 a stand. And that that was very important for all of us who were involved and there 276 00:21:48,63 --> 00:21:52,55 were a lot of people involved and we need to take 277 00:21:52,56 --> 00:21:57,62 a bright and Barbara Cochran with my co-host Dr jean Dorio on your hometown station 278 00:21:57,63 --> 00:21:58,54 AM twelve twenty. 279 00:22:07,25 --> 00:22:07,48 Four. 280 00:22:16,74 --> 00:22:22,66 In the last few years has dramatically advanced care for. Introducing lifesaving 281 00:22:22,67 --> 00:22:27,20 cardiovascular services achieving an advanced primary stroke center designation 282 00:22:27,25 --> 00:22:30,95 receiving the highest cancer program accreditation and developing new joint 283 00:22:30,96 --> 00:22:37,89 replacement programs in fact. Los Angeles Regional Hospital. Insure 284 00:22:37,90 --> 00:22:43,32 your quality of life through better quality of. 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Life liberty pursuit of happiness and retirement and being able to survive 295 00:23:33,67 --> 00:23:40,37 these days this idea about victimization and you know I don't think any 296 00:23:40,38 --> 00:23:44,46 one of the seniors that I know in this community will say that I am 297 00:23:44,47 --> 00:23:50,15 a victim they they are they're not going to subconsciously take that role They're 298 00:23:50,16 --> 00:23:52,71 always they're going to move their foot forward as they come through 299 00:23:52,72 --> 00:23:57,27 a lot they're the war War two veterans or they lived through that whether they were 300 00:23:57,28 --> 00:24:02,38 in the service or not the Korean War They built the country they've done all these 301 00:24:02,39 --> 00:24:07,80 things I think the attitude is the strength of their personality where they're 302 00:24:07,81 --> 00:24:12,10 coming from how they're going to move forward but they don't want to turn around 303 00:24:12,11 --> 00:24:16,28 and say the victim in this case and they don't want to create themselves and look 304 00:24:16,29 --> 00:24:21,88 at themselves as being victims Well if you're whining whining and complaining about 305 00:24:21,89 --> 00:24:25,32 anything that's a victim perspective I'm not saying you're 306 00:24:25,33 --> 00:24:29,03 a victim what I'm saying is that you're just looking through the filters of of 307 00:24:29,04 --> 00:24:34,43 being in being in the victim perspective meaning you're powerless you're basically 308 00:24:34,44 --> 00:24:37,77 making a statement every time you whine and complain about something you're making 309 00:24:37,78 --> 00:24:41,64 a statement to the world to the universe to the people around you you that. Or not 310 00:24:41,65 --> 00:24:47,00 powerful enough to change it or or influence it to look any different otherwise you 311 00:24:47,01 --> 00:24:51,60 won't complain about it you won you wouldn't be talking about it you would be 312 00:24:51,61 --> 00:24:54,99 trying to figure out how to make it look different how to create the result to 313 00:24:55,00 --> 00:25:01,06 benefit you so every time you catch yourself complaining or whining or calling up 314 00:25:01,07 --> 00:25:06,30 your friend to just you know run it or rot it's because your making that statement 315 00:25:06,31 --> 00:25:10,16 that you're not powerful enough to make a difference in it so stop being 316 00:25:10,17 --> 00:25:11,64 a victim and start looking for 317 00:25:11,65 --> 00:25:16,47 a solution yet just choose just choose to not give it more energy stuff focus on 318 00:25:16,48 --> 00:25:20,60 what you don't want even in the complaining you're still focusing and you're 319 00:25:20,61 --> 00:25:26,77 looking and creating this whole game around what it is that you don't want which 320 00:25:26,78 --> 00:25:33,20 also says that you're resisting it so it's surrender except turn around and now 321 00:25:33,21 --> 00:25:37,59 start focusing on what the solution is so let's talk about getting 322 00:25:37,60 --> 00:25:39,14 a disease right you get 323 00:25:39,15 --> 00:25:43,44 a disease and I know they talk about there's different phases you go through right 324 00:25:43,45 --> 00:25:49,100 what are some of the phases of depression depression denial anger denial so so 325 00:25:50,01 --> 00:25:50,92 denial here's 326 00:25:50,93 --> 00:25:56,57 a big one denial when you when you can move through denial quickly and get to 327 00:25:56,58 --> 00:25:59,96 a place of acceptance is the moment that you flip 328 00:25:59,97 --> 00:26:05,81 a switch and you start focusing on right now how do I start getting healthy. So the 329 00:26:05,82 --> 00:26:11,96 denial part is you what it's you resisting what you don't want you're resisting 330 00:26:11,97 --> 00:26:17,20 that you have diabetes you're resisting that you have cancer you're resisting that 331 00:26:17,21 --> 00:26:21,18 you have something that you don't want the minute you can just finally go you know 332 00:26:21,19 --> 00:26:25,77 what I write I have it great now what I did that and this is what are seeing this 333 00:26:25,78 --> 00:26:26,43 do well because it's 334 00:26:26,44 --> 00:26:31,51 a challenge yes the World War two Korean War moving forward these are the 335 00:26:31,52 --> 00:26:35,68 challenges they faced and that's why we want people to keep things in perspective 336 00:26:35,69 --> 00:26:39,09 and keep moving forward is right you know realize we're all human we're going to 337 00:26:39,10 --> 00:26:44,46 feel that were victims and that's OK But to then just as you said Alex to say I 338 00:26:44,47 --> 00:26:48,84 accept this I'm in this position based on the facts but now I'm going to move 339 00:26:48,85 --> 00:26:49,86 forward that's right is make 340 00:26:49,87 --> 00:26:55,11 a decision to move through your resistance to to whatever it is that you can't 341 00:26:55,12 --> 00:26:59,46 control that you don't want move through it quickly don't don't sit around its 342 00:26:59,47 --> 00:27:06,12 limit for weeks. Do back strokes in it for months for years get to 343 00:27:06,13 --> 00:27:12,01 a point where you're like All right it is what it is so what now what if it's to be 344 00:27:12,02 --> 00:27:15,03 it's up to me and start looking forward to creating 345 00:27:15,53 --> 00:27:20,09 a solution for whatever it is that you're not your desires are with my patients I 346 00:27:20,10 --> 00:27:22,05 find that you know I've made 347 00:27:22,06 --> 00:27:25,79 a diagnosis and we're looking at what the problem is but I will tell you 348 00:27:25,80 --> 00:27:30,57 a lot of relief comes in one eye who will say this is what we have to do this is 349 00:27:30,58 --> 00:27:34,56 how we're going to we've analyzed the situation this is how we are going to move 350 00:27:34,57 --> 00:27:40,09 forward on this educating them looking keeping it in perspective saying OK you need 351 00:27:40,10 --> 00:27:41,41 to see this physician as 352 00:27:41,42 --> 00:27:45,61 a referral or get this kind of treatment in the future take this kind of medication 353 00:27:45,81 --> 00:27:51,77 expect these side effects but once I see them. Accepting it and I've 354 00:27:51,90 --> 00:27:56,37 presented how they can move forward they do much better it's like 355 00:27:56,38 --> 00:28:01,47 a logical it's inspiring that it's almost American because now with that positive 356 00:28:01,48 --> 00:28:05,02 thinking they're not pushing themselves backwards they're not they're relieving the 357 00:28:05,02 --> 00:28:09,29 . So I was of that depression and it just makes it easier to take that next step in 358 00:28:09,30 --> 00:28:15,93 life and there's also some people that realize some people how. They get the 359 00:28:15,94 --> 00:28:17,91 information that confirming they have 360 00:28:17,92 --> 00:28:24,52 a disease some people actually become the disease rather then 361 00:28:25,38 --> 00:28:29,31 I have the disease the disease doesn't have me does that make sense there's 362 00:28:29,32 --> 00:28:30,42 a mistake there's 363 00:28:30,43 --> 00:28:35,27 a distinct difference between I have it rather than it has me if you give your 364 00:28:35,28 --> 00:28:38,70 power to it it's just going to take over you and I don't know I know you're in the 365 00:28:38,71 --> 00:28:41,40 medical field and I know you've seen people that have 366 00:28:41,41 --> 00:28:46,17 a powerful outlook and in their mind they get crystal clear about getting healthy 367 00:28:46,42 --> 00:28:53,30 and they have turnarounds and then you scenes other people that. Now make it bigger 368 00:28:53,31 --> 00:28:56,65 than it is and the disease just takes over them gets them into 369 00:28:56,66 --> 00:28:58,26 a depression gets them to 370 00:28:58,27 --> 00:29:03,18 a place where now they've surrendered to the disease and the direct to the disease 371 00:29:03,19 --> 00:29:06,99 is now going to just fester and it's going to you're giving up more life and more 372 00:29:07,00 --> 00:29:10,52 energy and more power not for me. Well but it's 373 00:29:10,53 --> 00:29:15,66 a personality thing though with you Barbara your personality would not submit to 374 00:29:15,67 --> 00:29:20,69 that and move backwards but part of her personality is also part of her outlook and 375 00:29:20,84 --> 00:29:25,27 the way her out of the way you the way you view it the way you see it is part of 376 00:29:25,28 --> 00:29:29,28 how it gives you that strength and that confidence to say that's interesting let's 377 00:29:29,29 --> 00:29:31,71 talk about that when we come back from bright because that's 378 00:29:31,72 --> 00:29:36,53 a very important element it really is I'm Barbara Cochran with my co-host Dr Gene 379 00:29:36,54 --> 00:29:42,53 Dorio on your hometown station AM twelve twenty Kate TS Hello I'm Captain Kelly 380 00:29:42,65 --> 00:29:44,45 you're watching S.C.B. T.V. 381 00:29:44,62 --> 00:29:48,48 Local television for South Korea to. Your. 382 00:29:52,53 --> 00:29:53,86 Church. 383 00:30:01,40 --> 00:30:07,09 This is secure the summit where Senator Reid about telling. 384 00:30:08,81 --> 00:30:08,98 Me. 385 00:30:19,59 --> 00:30:25,62 When I when you. When I get up 386 00:30:26,47 --> 00:30:30,38 I am. Thank you and when you. 387 00:30:40,75 --> 00:30:41,27 Meet. 388 00:30:48,88 --> 00:30:53,88 The senior Dorio with my co-host Barbara Cochran on your hometown station in twelve 389 00:30:53,89 --> 00:30:57,12 twenty caged Yes we're talking about stress and 390 00:30:57,13 --> 00:31:02,26 a lot of stress that comes from disease and during our break bar Barber was talking 391 00:31:02,27 --> 00:31:07,86 about how the stresses of World War two and living in England at the time were were 392 00:31:07,87 --> 00:31:14,40 just really. Not an easy thing to overcome even now in life you know and I was just 393 00:31:14,41 --> 00:31:21,37 a little girl here I was six and seven years old. And I remember it so vividly it's 394 00:31:21,38 --> 00:31:27,11 unbelievable I'll never forget it and some of my experiences and I think that 395 00:31:27,12 --> 00:31:27,78 probably had 396 00:31:27,79 --> 00:31:35,18 a lot to do with. My outlook on life now and I'm sure it did because 397 00:31:35,22 --> 00:31:40,56 there was always Hope Solo there was always something to look forward to but you 398 00:31:40,57 --> 00:31:46,83 also said that how your mom and speired your survival Yes just was always there to 399 00:31:46,84 --> 00:31:51,53 say you're OK he told Ed and you this is fine we're not going to we're not good 400 00:31:51,54 --> 00:31:56,61 we're going to do OK but got upset when you were realize how close sometimes you 401 00:31:56,62 --> 00:32:03,48 did come to dying that's right that's exactly right and I think my experiences as 402 00:32:03,49 --> 00:32:08,94 a young child shaped my outlook on life because I've I've always been 403 00:32:08,95 --> 00:32:15,70 a part positive person and when this this situation hit me with this non 404 00:32:15,71 --> 00:32:21,69 hodgkins lymphoma I thought hey I'm going to beat this and it's not going to get 405 00:32:21,70 --> 00:32:27,63 hold of me I'm going to beat it and I am beating Johnny one place it's left in my 406 00:32:27,64 --> 00:32:33,39 body and after this next chemo it's going to be gone Congratulations again I know 407 00:32:33,40 --> 00:32:38,33 it well but it's it stems from your attitude though and you know I just wonder what 408 00:32:38,34 --> 00:32:42,30 your you know not of that that a war would allow you to have 409 00:32:42,31 --> 00:32:48,70 a different attitude but as Alex said I see patients who their personalities take 410 00:32:48,71 --> 00:32:52,53 hold and all of a sudden their their disease is 411 00:32:52,54 --> 00:32:57,59 a part of them that they can't it's their shackled by it and it becomes 412 00:32:57,60 --> 00:33:02,69 a piece of their personality and they become victimized because of it but I I 413 00:33:02,70 --> 00:33:05,23 wonder how all of our backgrounds play 414 00:33:05,24 --> 00:33:10,51 a role and then when it comes to something like your your health and then 415 00:33:10,55 --> 00:33:15,70 a barrier in your health how then you approach it how then you look at it maybe not 416 00:33:15,71 --> 00:33:15,85 as 417 00:33:15,86 --> 00:33:20,71 a victim and I don't think you did at all or at all Barb but you're looking forward 418 00:33:20,72 --> 00:33:25,26 and said OK I know I have this but I'm moving forward how do you know how do we all 419 00:33:25,27 --> 00:33:29,81 differ and different ways and approaching now for our seniors Oh I can't get 420 00:33:29,82 --> 00:33:33,62 a meal. Here at the Senior Center what am I going to do and some of them end up 421 00:33:33,63 --> 00:33:35,03 going well I'm going to find 422 00:33:35,04 --> 00:33:41,60 a way whereas others will go or give up even if you know it's interesting. The 423 00:33:41,80 --> 00:33:47,93 other woman in the reception hall to hear today we were talking about it she's been 424 00:33:47,94 --> 00:33:54,83 living with cancer for years and is still living with it and her outlook is 425 00:33:54,84 --> 00:34:00,57 wonderful absolutely wonderful and I wholeheartedly agree with her you know. 426 00:34:01,97 --> 00:34:07,11 What good does it do you to stress out and makes you worse you know you keep 427 00:34:07,12 --> 00:34:09,80 looking forward because tomorrow will be 428 00:34:09,81 --> 00:34:15,48 a better day and absolutely Well there's no doubt about it as far as I'm concerned 429 00:34:15,78 --> 00:34:22,71 so what I was inspired from her was I saw in her face the surrendered 430 00:34:22,72 --> 00:34:29,45 this totally surrender to I have it so what now what 431 00:34:30,28 --> 00:34:34,33 let's move forward it's to me it's up to me I get to I get to live my life every 432 00:34:34,34 --> 00:34:35,91 day and every day's 433 00:34:35,92 --> 00:34:41,02 a blessing so it changed her out her outlook shift her perspective shift at some 434 00:34:41,03 --> 00:34:48,01 point where she just realized I'm now not going to focus on the cancer I was 435 00:34:48,02 --> 00:34:51,78 going to focus on living my life and if you saw if you saw the look in her eyes Oh 436 00:34:51,79 --> 00:34:56,73 yes she was she was just it was about living her life absolutely talking about her 437 00:34:56,74 --> 00:35:03,30 children her two sons I it's just it's amazing it's just amazing it was it was 438 00:35:03,31 --> 00:35:03,60 quite 439 00:35:03,61 --> 00:35:10,66 a revelation because I'm thinking wow wow. This woman is incredible 440 00:35:10,66 --> 00:35:13,92 . And she had purpose yes she had 441 00:35:13,93 --> 00:35:18,41 a reason she had to she had to move forward she had family she had people backing 442 00:35:18,42 --> 00:35:20,50 her up she had community and 443 00:35:20,51 --> 00:35:24,02 a reason to be doing things you know that's actually what she said it came out of 444 00:35:24,03 --> 00:35:29,58 her own now she said I realized through this whole journey that the purpose of life 445 00:35:29,69 --> 00:35:32,84 she said she flat out said out of her own mouth so once you get clear about what 446 00:35:32,85 --> 00:35:35,23 your purpose is and and live 447 00:35:35,24 --> 00:35:41,24 a purpose driven life you just get focused you get dialed in and you get you get 448 00:35:41,59 --> 00:35:47,11 focused on what what's really important and what really matters to you and at 449 00:35:47,15 --> 00:35:48,27 a certain disease or 450 00:35:48,28 --> 00:35:52,97 a certain problem is just not what you want to put your energy or your time to and 451 00:35:52,98 --> 00:35:58,28 it becomes less important and you start looking on what I what I'm committed to 452 00:35:58,60 --> 00:36:05,07 rather than what I don't want you know though that when I first started medicine 453 00:36:05,36 --> 00:36:09,50 three decades ago I mean there was a thought there really wasn't 454 00:36:09,51 --> 00:36:16,02 a thought about how our shroud us facts. Us physically 455 00:36:16,27 --> 00:36:21,50 that connection was not there I mean many doctors would say no it's in your head 456 00:36:21,76 --> 00:36:26,35 it's super ten Toral they called it which is you know that's that's something 457 00:36:26,36 --> 00:36:31,97 they're just thinking of and creating their own problems but we know now that she 458 00:36:31,98 --> 00:36:38,45 stress can cause problems in your body stress can lead to illness 459 00:36:38,66 --> 00:36:43,79 and my perfect example of that is that and that's kind of 460 00:36:43,80 --> 00:36:47,57 a valving one with everything we're talking about but I had 461 00:36:47,58 --> 00:36:51,87 a patient who his wife was a pianist and 462 00:36:51,88 --> 00:36:58,01 a concert pianist but she developed Alzheimer's but for like five or six years at 463 00:36:58,02 --> 00:37:04,10 the end of her life he was the total care giver he had that purpose to take care of 464 00:37:04,11 --> 00:37:10,47 her and make sure she was OK and kept doing that and was the consummate example of 465 00:37:10,70 --> 00:37:11,51 who he was 466 00:37:11,52 --> 00:37:17,24 a human being is like and finally she started to deteriorate rapidly when 467 00:37:17,25 --> 00:37:24,13 a hospice passed away and he was OK with that but his purpose was God and within 468 00:37:24,14 --> 00:37:27,60 a year of that time about nine months later came in complaining of 469 00:37:27,61 --> 00:37:33,17 a domino pain and I examined him we couldn't find the sores we didn't know what was 470 00:37:33,18 --> 00:37:38,55 wrong we did scoping scans everything couldn't find it then we had operated on him 471 00:37:38,59 --> 00:37:39,69 open them up and 472 00:37:39,70 --> 00:37:44,79 a malignant melanoma that he had had twenty years before was now in his abdomen and 473 00:37:44,80 --> 00:37:45,81 he passed away within 474 00:37:45,82 --> 00:37:51,61 a week of that time period and so he had his he had purpose took care of his wife 475 00:37:51,90 --> 00:37:56,64 held everything off that any kind of cancers but once he didn't have purpose 476 00:37:56,65 --> 00:38:02,43 anymore and the depression of the loss of his wife set in them. That took him over 477 00:38:02,47 --> 00:38:04,91 you know so much it was like a while me it plays 478 00:38:04,92 --> 00:38:08,74 a role that's right so when they when I have experiences like that that was 479 00:38:08,75 --> 00:38:13,46 probably about fifteen years ago I go Don't ever tell me even though I'm 480 00:38:13,47 --> 00:38:18,70 a classic goal type of position here in this country that should dress or the 481 00:38:18,71 --> 00:38:20,93 psychology of life doesn't play 482 00:38:20,94 --> 00:38:25,26 a role in how we do physically don't ever tell me there's no connection because 483 00:38:25,27 --> 00:38:28,90 there are definitely yes and once we figure out a realize that there is 484 00:38:28,91 --> 00:38:32,80 a connection and know how to handle it that physically our lives will be better 485 00:38:32,84 --> 00:38:37,11 that's right absolutely and we need to take another break unfortunately I'm Barbara 486 00:38:37,12 --> 00:38:41,65 Cochran with my co-host Dr jean Dorio on your home town station AM twelve twenty 487 00:38:41,66 --> 00:38:47,41 cage TS Hello I'm Gail Pinsker here watching T.V. 488 00:38:47,51 --> 00:38:53,99 Local television for Santa Clarita. All his marks him or her 489 00:38:54,78 --> 00:39:00,34 where you then also my cat. Right yeah so I mean this calf trying to trying to get 490 00:39:00,34 --> 00:39:03,30 . The word kind of. 491 00:39:11,98 --> 00:39:17,61 Wrote it working on it. Anything's possible keep thinking get started on your own 492 00:39:17,62 --> 00:39:23,60 invention sportsperson didn't invent Now Tom Ford. Santa Clarita in Southern 493 00:39:23,61 --> 00:39:27,17 California is entertainment destination just minutes from L.A. 494 00:39:27,29 --> 00:39:32,54 Santa Clarita is year round weather means you can enjoy the year round fun. Like 495 00:39:32,55 --> 00:39:39,24 grilling coasters and water parks premium shopping destination Day Spa fine dining 496 00:39:39,56 --> 00:39:44,42 outdoor adventure and major events such as wine festivals golf tournaments and the 497 00:39:44,43 --> 00:39:49,85 cowboy fest of. Santa Clarita always in season. 498 00:39:52,06 --> 00:39:58,75 From the Harvard. Trained Oreo in your hometown station I am twelve twenty 499 00:39:58,81 --> 00:40:02,24 K.T.S. And we've been speaking Alex Urbina who is 500 00:40:02,25 --> 00:40:08,44 a life leadership coach and our subject has been stress Alex can you give us an 501 00:40:08,45 --> 00:40:15,06 hour listening audience some pointers on how to combat stress Well there's only one 502 00:40:15,07 --> 00:40:21,75 key thing to combat stress and that's to surrender that which you cannot control 503 00:40:22,45 --> 00:40:29,39 and surrender. You know that whatever it is that showed up in your life 504 00:40:29,40 --> 00:40:32,16 it's there for a reason I believe that everything happens for 505 00:40:32,17 --> 00:40:37,74 a reason so whatever it is it could be our greatest lesson so whatever's coming up 506 00:40:37,75 --> 00:40:43,25 whether you didn't get your paycheck to pay the mortgage that month. Sit down and 507 00:40:43,26 --> 00:40:47,73 look at that and instead of resisting it and being upset at it and complaining 508 00:40:47,74 --> 00:40:52,52 about it just surrender to it first I'm not saying that you accepted and then don't 509 00:40:52,53 --> 00:40:52,84 figure out 510 00:40:52,85 --> 00:40:57,74 a solution all I'm saying is to relieve the stress just surrender it and the key is 511 00:40:57,75 --> 00:41:01,76 surrender and people that are spiritual or a believe in 512 00:41:01,77 --> 00:41:06,12 a higher power they know about this they know how to surrender they are concerned 513 00:41:06,13 --> 00:41:06,46 read it to 514 00:41:06,47 --> 00:41:10,07 a higher power or they surrender to the universe but they know how to just get off 515 00:41:10,08 --> 00:41:13,55 it and once you get off it then that frees you up to be more in 516 00:41:14,33 --> 00:41:18,45 a relaxed peaceful peaceful state and then from that point forward now start 517 00:41:18,46 --> 00:41:19,02 figuring out 518 00:41:19,03 --> 00:41:24,45 a solution from that state once you've surrendered the exile in the stress that 519 00:41:24,53 --> 00:41:28,81 that could be cause from it just so said it it it should become 520 00:41:28,82 --> 00:41:34,17 a lesson. Of life that you're that you've approached and you're looking at it's 521 00:41:34,18 --> 00:41:39,27 a lesson that you can learn something from to move forward and then when you can 522 00:41:39,28 --> 00:41:45,18 find solutions to that that problem that once you've surrendered learned that it's 523 00:41:45,19 --> 00:41:50,46 a something you learn from and you're going to now move forward you learn how to do 524 00:41:50,47 --> 00:41:51,44 this it's only 525 00:41:51,45 --> 00:41:55,66 a learning lesson if you choose to see it like that correct because I don't have 526 00:41:55,67 --> 00:41:59,98 don't I can have it will be always it's always and keep showing up as 527 00:41:59,99 --> 00:42:03,84 a problem but see this is what we need to teach our children that when they have 528 00:42:04,22 --> 00:42:09,31 a problem that they're facing the the stress the impact that's coming at them to 529 00:42:09,38 --> 00:42:12,94 take that step back look at it that they're going to learn from this lesson 530 00:42:13,14 --> 00:42:19,65 approach it with the idea that you're going to then be able to find solutions and 531 00:42:19,66 --> 00:42:24,31 learn how to find those solutions once you do that in life life will become 532 00:42:24,32 --> 00:42:29,78 a lot easier when you're sixty seventy eighty years old and you're able to you're 533 00:42:29,79 --> 00:42:35,26 able to make sure that you don't that you're always learning something from it that 534 00:42:35,27 --> 00:42:39,90 you're always gaining the information that you're always taking that next step 535 00:42:39,91 --> 00:42:46,15 forward and not allowing yourself to get the press and then that stress to affect 536 00:42:46,16 --> 00:42:50,38 you physically or mentally That's right it takes practice to provide 537 00:42:50,39 --> 00:42:56,89 a lot of practice do it when you're young Yeah and do it when you're already. Doing 538 00:42:56,90 --> 00:43:01,74 it and when you do it it's never too late but what it does take is it takes courage 539 00:43:01,98 --> 00:43:04,97 and you have to dig down deep and you have to be willing to look at yourself in 540 00:43:05,03 --> 00:43:06,79 deeply absolute and have 541 00:43:06,80 --> 00:43:10,33 a reckoning with yourself and be willing to surrender all the goodies because we 542 00:43:10,34 --> 00:43:13,83 also get goodies for being stressed out too or yeah that's a whole nother show 543 00:43:13,95 --> 00:43:17,89 a simple yes some of those goodies is that we get to complain to people and get 544 00:43:17,90 --> 00:43:21,46 sympathy and validation and pity and all that stuff so that's 545 00:43:21,47 --> 00:43:26,88 a whole nother show but you know the first key is to surrender and just. Stop 546 00:43:26,89 --> 00:43:30,36 resisting those things that you can't control or the solution or. Problems that you 547 00:43:30,37 --> 00:43:31,70 have and you'll manage your stress 548 00:43:31,71 --> 00:43:34,78 a lot that's right you certainly Well it's of anybody want to get 549 00:43:34,79 --> 00:43:38,78 a hold of you and your group and especially bring those kids in the start learning 550 00:43:38,79 --> 00:43:41,67 some of those lives lost so we're over at the action families on we have 551 00:43:41,68 --> 00:43:43,58 a new teen center it's an enrichment in 552 00:43:43,59 --> 00:43:48,23 a power center where we do experiential workshops and trainings to help build 553 00:43:48,24 --> 00:43:50,17 self-esteem and leadership develop 554 00:43:50,18 --> 00:43:54,64 a leadership qualities for the kids out here in the Santa Clarita Valley the action 555 00:43:54,65 --> 00:44:01,36 family zone is at six six one four six seven two seven one four 556 00:44:01,74 --> 00:44:05,49 and you can if you want to get ahold of me call me there and ask for me or leave me 557 00:44:05,50 --> 00:44:09,65 a voicemail and I'll return any any message you send and where is the action so 558 00:44:10,31 --> 00:44:10,68 we're X. 559 00:44:10,69 --> 00:44:15,89 We're on the corner when the saw that canyon Plaza on the corner of Rooster and saw 560 00:44:15,90 --> 00:44:22,62 that canyon road OK OK Always great information and you know it applies to our kids 561 00:44:22,63 --> 00:44:28,85 but it also definitely applies to our seniors or seniors facing this major stress 562 00:44:28,86 --> 00:44:33,71 from our home delivered meals and getting meals in this community we're going to 563 00:44:33,88 --> 00:44:37,46 solve that problem we're going to work work forward through through the county and 564 00:44:37,47 --> 00:44:41,83 the city and you know for through donors we're going to make sure that this does 565 00:44:41,84 --> 00:44:47,09 not happen here those people like you to leading that group I believe that you guys 566 00:44:47,10 --> 00:44:52,63 will overcome something I will bring up if you pick the yes we will. Well that's 567 00:44:52,88 --> 00:44:57,66 that's really exciting Alex for being here again today once again Alex's phone 568 00:44:57,67 --> 00:45:02,02 number six six one four six seven two seven one four that's four six seven two 569 00:45:02,03 --> 00:45:06,55 seven one four we are sponsored by Comfort keepers in home care listen to us next 570 00:45:06,56 --> 00:45:10,69 week on the senior hour or go in and hence your quality of life.